Even the strong can be broken

Have you ever looked at a person who just radiated strength and wondered how in the world do they manage to be so solid and together no matter what is going on around them?

I can tell you from my own personal experience that it does not come easy, nor is it a pleasant way to be all the time. Most often people become that way as a survival skill. When a person lives a big part of their life with no support system or in a constant state of chaos, one of two things will happen. They either fall apart and become a complete mess, incapable of taking care of themselves, or they get so calais that things no longer affect them the way they used to. Over time this appears to the rest of the world as a strong person who can handle it all and doesn’t need anyone or anything. When the reality is that inside, we are often very broken, but for fear, we never show it. If by some small chance we do crack a tiny bit, and it is not received well by those around us, we quickly seal it back up and go on with our life as if nothing happened. We tend to compartmentalize everything in our life so that emotions from different situations don’t overflow into others. And though this is a very efficient way to move through things, it creates the issue of not being emotionally vulnerable, but then again, we don’t feel like we can be anyway. It is a bit of a paradox if you ask me. So here we are just going through life being this strong person who can take anything and deal with it all, because that’s how we have had to be to survive, so in turn that is how people expect us to be, and don’t seem to know what do if we are not that person.