Transgender, Transexual, Transvestite

I find myself thinking about this issue more and more every day. Every possible outlook on it seems to be everywhere you look. But the one thing I haven't seen is what a transgender person actually is. All of the information appears to be fluid and subjective. This creates an issue for me, because I am being asked to accept and conform to an idea that is not being backed up by any actual facts. I am very much a realist and a rational thinker, so feelings about a situation no matter how relevant to the person having them, doesn’t actually matter to the rest of the world. Nor should they in that context. As someone who dealt with what is now being called gender dysphoria when I was a teenager, I find it very disturbing how so many people behave and expect the rest of the world to behave.

I did not come into what I consider my femininity until much later in life, well after what I thought was acceptable by society. And when I say well after I mean that I had been married, had a child and been divorced, by the time I finally started to become more comfortable in my own body. And even then it was not a short process of becoming what I thought it meant to be a woman. I thought being a woman meant that I had to fit into a specific box of looks, behavior, and identity. And honestly, that seems to be what is happening at large with a lot of the Trans community who want to push this agenda that being a woman is as simple as how you feel.

Somehow we seem to have gone from what used to be considered gender roles in society to gender is now an identity and who one is as a person. Not long ago I had a conversation about the subject with my 12 year old daughter, and she understood it perfectly, it wasn’t complicated or confusing. She simply said “I am a girl, it is what I am not who I am.” The fact that my 12 year old daughter is able to identify and understand this simple fact, when there are so many in the world who struggle so badly with it. Prior to this blowing up the way it has, I had always wondered why there were so many women who were fighting what they called the equality fight. That somehow women were not or are not equal to men, and personally I find this idea to be ridicules. Two things can be different but still equal, but society seems to have forgotten this. And honestly why on earth would I, as a natural born biological woman ever want to reduce myself to be the same as a man? I can’t for the life of me understand it. I was made to be special, to be and do everything a man can’t do. To me that is part of what and who I am, and there is no one anywhere who is going to diminish that fact for me or my daughters. Being a woman isn’t about being feminine or looking a certain way, or acting in a particular manner, and it never has been. It took me until well into my 30’s before I really started to understand that about myself, and people in general. There are heterosexual women who are not feminine at all, as well as heterosexual men who aren’t masculine, and there is nothing wrong with that. How masculine or feminine a person is doesn’t make them man or woman, your reproductive organs are what decide that. I am of course speaking about the mass of humanity born with a single set of reproductive organs, not the tiny portion born with an anomaly they did not choose, but even in those cases either the male or female hormones will have one dominate over the other.

There are other factors to consider about the trans community as well, such as what is considered indecent exposer of a trans person? For example, in public as a woman I must have my nipples covered, but what about a trans woman? If this person is identifying as a woman and expects the world to treat them as such, are they still allowed to be shirtless in a public place? What if they have had implants? But also what if they still have a penis? Or vice versa, my husband can walk outside shirtless with no issue, but what about a trans man? Even if this person has a mastectomy, how are they different from a woman who had breast cancer & had one for life saving medical purposes? These are just a few of the questions that I can never seem to find answers to in the vas sea of trans women are women nonsense. We have come to a place where it seems that biological sex is being separated from gender as if they are somehow 2 different things, as if man and woman no longer mean adult male and adult female. Since the beginning of time when a person had to fill out paperwork that needed to include sex or gender of a given person, the field title would always be gender, because it was understood that field was referring specially to your reproductive organs and what genitals you were born with. Most often this comes with the medical field because the physical bodies of the 2 are vastly different and must be cared for in a way that is appropriate to that. Regardless of how a person chooses to live their life, dress, act, or whatever, it does not change what we are.

Now for me personally, having been through the stage in my life where I genuinely thought I was born in the wrong body, I felt so uncomfortable with anything to do with femininity that I felt like the whole world was staring at me in disgust, as if I was somehow the one with something wrong. Now after several decades of growth and learning, I know that it was simply my own distorted view of myself because of what I thought it meant to be a girl. With the current environment, I am thankful daily that no one in my life tried to affirm me as I believe it is called now. Even though it took me so many years to get where I am today, I would not change it. I can honestly say that I am happy with who I am and what I am. I am comfortable in my own skin, and not because someone else told me what or who I am, but because I finally realized that my sex or gender doesn’t matter in the who am I question.

Now having said all that, I will address where I stand on the issue in a very concise way.

I find it to be very simple, if a person over the age of 18 undergoes the treatment necessary to actually medically and physically change their sex/gender, meaning the functioning genitals that person is born with have been removed and changed to whatever the medical equivalent of the opposite sex is, and they are undergoing the necessary hormone therapy to alter their body to match that of their desired sex/gender. Then yes, I would consider that person a true transgender, which of course is just another word for transsexual, and whether I agree with it or not, they have my respect enough that I will call them according to their pronouns of their new sex/gender. Until a person undergoes these changes, no matter how life is lived that person is still whatever sex/gender they were born. PERIOD. I also will not conform to this nonsense of nonbinary mess either. If a person wants to be a sex/gender that is not man or woman, but can not define what that is, then how can you be that thing? This is again a case of what you are vs who you are, and I for one am not going to call any one person a word that means multiple people. Unless of course you are a demon as described in the Bible, then of course that’s a little different. So, as you see it is rather simple. If you are a man, born with testicles and a penis, and still possess that anatomy but dress as society deems women to dress, and vice versa for women, then you are not in fact a transgender, there is a word for it already, it’s called transvestite. And I will go on to say that short of a trans identifying person undergoing these proceedures, they have no business competing in any sport that is designated for the sex/gender opposite of what they were born. If men & women were the same, there wouldn't be seporated divisions for them. If Trans identifying people want to compete in those oposite divisions, then they need their own division. PERIOD.

We have come to a place in society where the objective truth and objective right or wrong is being pushed out as if it has no place in the world, and it is being replaced by what everyone feels in a given moment. This of course creates the very issues we are seeing today where everyone wants everyone else to be ok with and accept their wants and desires. However as we are seeing in many places we are seeing the results of this because as one person might say I am not hurting anyone, but what if you are and you just don’t know it? A tree falls in the forest and no one is around to hear it does it make a sound? Yes, the consequences don’t cease to exist simply because we may not see or hear them directly. The I was born this way and my feelings are the only thing that matter are the very excuses that pedophiles have picked up and ran with like no other. So much so that the state of California has made it legal for a 24-year-old man to have sex with a 14 year old girl. Now I realize that this doesn’t fit into the actual definition of pedophilia but it is a very slippery slope that we are going down.

When I started out writing this post I can’t say I saw it going in the directions I took it, but by the time you get to this point, I hope I have at least given you some real rational things to think about and inspired you to ask questions, no matter who it might offend.